…I’ll like you for always. As long as I am living my baby you’ll be.” These are the words of a song in a well known children’s book that I have read many times to my own sons. And it seems a well fitted title for long awaited blog post.
You might remember these guys. Yes! My folks. My crew. My back-up plan. The kind of people you can call at 3 am to pick you up from anywhere while it’s snowing…. 🙂
Well, they have a wonderful story to tell. With a happy ending and all. So here in my sister-in-law’s own words…
It is really hard to put into words all the emotions that I have had over the past week. I want to share this though in case there is another girl out there that might be facing the same thing. 32 years ago, I made the most difficult decision I have ever made in my life. At the age of 16 I learned I was pregnant. No this most certainly wasn’t the ideal situation, as no one wants to ever deal with that. I was very involved in my high school and in the 80’s, when something like this happened, it was discussed and people had a great deal of things to say, most of which were pretty cruel. So, I left Bowling Green and went to live in Louisville in a home for unwed mothers through Catholic Charities. (Catholic Charities does a great deal of awesome things and adoption is one of them.) I was there for about 5 months. While living there, we were required to have counseling on a weekly basis, which I hated at first, but ended up being the best thing I could have done because it enabled me to make the very best decision possible. All along, I knew my sweet child needed to be with a mother and a father if at all possible, so I knew adoption would be best for him. There was no way I could care for my child the way he deserved. I only had a summer job at the time and how was I going to provide for him. When he was born, although I knew what was best for him, actually seeing him, holding him, feeding him, etc, it made the decision much harder than I could have ever imagined. I had my precious son for three very precious days and my mom and I made a lot pictures. In the end though, I knew that what was best for him was to let him go. I was able to give him a letter and a small gift that I was told he would receive when he was 18. The only thing I knew about the family he was going to was that they had a home in Louisville and that they had a daughter, that was also adopted, that was almost 5 when they got him. I was also told that I could keep my information updated with Catholic Charities and if he ever wanted to find me, he could. I have always been at peace with my decision and of course I always hoped he would find me, but if for some reason he didn’t, that was ok too because I knew, in the end, I did what was best for him. So last Saturday I received a letter from Catholic Charities that he was looking for me. What a complete shock for me and my family! Although, Rv and my sweet girls have always known about this, we just never thought this day would come. From that moment on, there has been every emotion there is and more! I got the pleasure of meeting Alan’s parents and what a truly amazing couple they are! I have spent some very special time with them sharing pictures and stories. I always knew God would take care of him, but he truly couldn’t have given him better parents! Our whole family has welcomed him with open arms and it has been way more than I could have ever hoped for.
Again I wanted to share this because there are so many couples that are unable to have children but have so much love to give. My hope is that if there is someone out there struggling with this very thing, that they will consider this. No not all adoptions are like this one. There are so many options including open adoptions. For those that have been adopted and have found or wanting to find their parents, if you are able to connect, for whatever reason, know that you are very, very special and loved and that is why you are where you are.
Thank you to each and everyone of you that posted, text and/or commented on our pictures. The support has been overwhelming and very humbling. God Bless to all!”
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